Episode 5
The Power Of Thoughts: Everything Happens For A Reason With Melissa Deally
Alan is joined by Integrative Mind Body Health Practitioner, Melissa Deally. Melissa used to work in the corporate world until she was let-go of with no thanks and no warning. From that moment onward she decided to live her life never working for anyone else and dedicated her next work to help others truly heal and detox their physical, mental and emotional bodies.
Alan and Melissa dive into self-care and talk about how it’s the most selfless and important act one can do. Without self-care we will have nothing left for ourselves, making it impossible for us to truly be there for others.
Melissa also shares about the Reticular Activating System (RAS) and how she created a gratitude journal. Our imaginations are such a powerful tool we have to create joy or despair! With it Melissa teaches her clients awareness about the way that our bodies communicate with us. We need to learn to calm our bodies using our breath.
Dive in to this informative podcast that will help bring to light the importance of mindfulness.
About the Guest:
Melissa Deally is an Integrative Mind Body Health Practitioner, also trained in NLP, Timeline Therapy and a Hypnotherapy teacher. She’s dedicated to helping her clients discover the root cause of their health issue and truly heal, while detoxing their physical, mental and emotional bodies. Melissa’s business is 100% virtual, and she works with the entire English speaking world.
Melissa also uses the power of functional medicine lab tests mailed to your home, while offering a very high level of support, to ensure her clients’ success, as we navigate the path bringing the bodies back into balance, while creating new lifestyle habits to ensure lasting results.
Melissa is an international speaker, three time best-selling author, and has been named to the 2022 CREA Global Award list, and the winner of the Alignable 2023 & 2022 Local Business Person Of The Year Award for Whistler. She is also the recipient of the 2022 & 2021 Quality Care Award by Businesses From The Heart. Melissa is the host of the “Don’t Wait For Your Wake Up Call!” podcast, a podcast offering practical education around health, which ranked in the top 5% of Global podcasts by Listen Notes in the first 3 months of launching.
When not serving her clients, Melissa can be found on her paddle board, backcountry hiking & camping with her daughter(s), downhill or cross country skiing, or planning her next trip for her Girl Guide unit or working on her passion project, Girls Matter, helping keep girls in school in Uganda, breaking the poverty cycle, one girl, one family, one village at a time.
Contact:
My LinkTree: https://linktr.ee/yourguidedhealthjourney
Email: melissa@yourguidedhealthjourney.com
About Alan:
Alan Carroll is an Educational Psychologist who specializes in Transpersonal Psychology. He founded Alan Carroll & Associates 30 years ago and before that, he was a Senior Sales Training Consultant for 10 years at Digital Equipment Corporation. He has dedicated his life in search of mindfulness tools that can be used by everyone (young and old) to transform their ability to speak at a professional level, as well as, to reduce the psychological suffering caused by the misidentification with our ego and reconnect to the vast transcendent dimension of consciousness that lies just on the other side of the thoughts we think and in between the words we speak.
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Transcript
Melissa, welcome.
Melissa Deally:Thank you very much, Alan, good to be here.
Alan Carroll:Well, it's exciting for for me to be with
Alan Carroll:you. Because we share a lot in common. And so we already have a
Alan Carroll:connection, which is great. Yes. And the deep connection that we
Alan Carroll:have is mindfulness. And so what I like to do is have the
Alan Carroll:audience experience your stories and about mindfulness and how
Alan Carroll:you got into the mindfulness, umbrella. And various paths
Alan Carroll:under the mindfulness umbrella, and how you bring mindfulness
Alan Carroll:into the world to heal. To heal the stress and the agitation
Alan Carroll:caused by the put them in close, but the chaos that's happening
Alan Carroll:with all the stirring up of our thoughts. And so I'd like to
Alan Carroll:welcome you to the mindful you podcast, and have added,
Melissa Deally:well, thank you. And I'm just gonna go back a
Melissa Deally:little bit in time, back to when I was in the corporate world,
Melissa Deally:which was up until eight years ago. And back then I really
Melissa Deally:didn't know anything about mine fullness. But sure, I'd heard of
Melissa Deally:meditation, I'd never done it didn't really understand the
Melissa Deally:value of it, I was in that go, go go doo doo doo world that the
Melissa Deally:corporate world gets you caught up in. And then one day, big
Melissa Deally:fish bought little fish. And I was just given an hour to clear
Melissa Deally:out my desk. And after 24 years, not even a word of thanks. And
Melissa Deally:in that moment, I knew three things, I knew I was never going
Melissa Deally:to work for someone else. Again, whatever I did next had to be
Melissa Deally:more service to the planet and humanity. And then I had no idea
Melissa Deally:what that be. And that was really the start of my journey
Melissa Deally:into mindfulness, because now I had time time to explore who I
Melissa Deally:was, and what I wanted to do with the second half of my
Melissa Deally:career, and to allow myself to be guided into that versus
Melissa Deally:forcing it. And I literally went from the hotel world of
Melissa Deally:corporate to health and wellness and health and wellness had
Melissa Deally:never been on my radar, other than I, you know, tried to eat
Melissa Deally:well and exercise and look after my health. And through a series
Melissa Deally:of circumstances, I was very much guided into this work. And
Melissa Deally:part of that was both of my daughter's going through
Melissa Deally:concussions at a very similar time. And I don't know if you've
Melissa Deally:ever experienced concussions in your household, but it's tough
Melissa Deally:for anybody who have a concussion, let alone teenage
Melissa Deally:girls, and one in particular who was in grade 12 At the time, and
Melissa Deally:life just shuts down because the brain can't handle that normal
Melissa Deally:level of energy that it used to be able to handle. So she
Melissa Deally:couldn't go to school, she couldn't participate in all the
Melissa Deally:fun stuff, all the other kids were doing, couldn't go to prom,
Melissa Deally:couldn't go to graduation, et cetera, et cetera, et cetera.
Melissa Deally:And feeling like I'm missing out on everything. And it's very
Melissa Deally:easy to for people with concussions to slip into
Melissa Deally:meditation, and it sorry, into depression. So I started
Melissa Deally:learning about meditation and mindfulness to support her, and
Melissa Deally:also started learning that everything happens for a reason.
Melissa Deally:And there was a reason I got let go, there was a reason she had
Melissa Deally:this concussion. And part of me being let go was so that I was
Melissa Deally:around and had the time to support both my daughters
Melissa Deally:through their healing journeys. So we started practicing
Melissa Deally:mindfulness, and slowing down as part of the healing process for
Melissa Deally:these concussions and stepping into guided meditation
Melissa Deally:practices. And just allowing the time to sit still and be and you
Melissa Deally:know, reading the research about how powerful this is, how
Melissa Deally:healing it is, for our mind for our entire nervous system. I
Melissa Deally:started learning about breath work. And again, we have our
Melissa Deally:breath with us all the time. It's something that we can do
Melissa Deally:anywhere to drop ourselves out of that fight or flight state
Melissa Deally:and into our parasympathetic nervous system stage. And soon
Melissa Deally:after working with both girls and supporting them through
Melissa Deally:their healing journey, I had also connected with a company
Melissa Deally:that specialized in brain health supplementation, so I was giving
Melissa Deally:them really good nutrition to support the healing as well as
Melissa Deally:seeing physiotherapist to help them. I became known in my small
Melissa Deally:community for helping my girls recover and both did fully
Melissa Deally:recover. And then I was asked to work at a clinic. Yeah, that was
Melissa Deally:very good news. Thank you. And I was asked to work at a clinic, a
Melissa Deally:holistic clinic that was opening to help more people with
Melissa Deally:concussion recoveries. And there is a need I Live in a ski town
Melissa Deally:and there's winter at skiing in the summer, it's downhill
Melissa Deally:biking. So there is a lot of concussions. However, I couldn't
Melissa Deally:work there because I couldn't get insurance because I didn't
Melissa Deally:have any training. I just had my own learning research and
Melissa Deally:experience with my daughters. So I realized I need to go back to
Melissa Deally:school. So I did that I went back to school and became a
Melissa Deally:health coach. And even that was a gift because I had never even
Melissa Deally:heard of the term health coach before. But I had called a
Melissa Deally:friend who was a life coach and thought maybe I should be a life
Melissa Deally:coach that had kind of been bouncing in the back of my head
Melissa Deally:and not landed. And I asked him where he did his training, and
Melissa Deally:he said, You shouldn't be a life coach, you need to be a health
Melissa Deally:coach. And I went, what, what's that, and I took that to be a
Melissa Deally:gift from the universe, and started researching health
Melissa Deally:coaching schools and literally started 10 days later, I found
Melissa Deally:one that I really aligned with, and jumped right in. And one of
Melissa Deally:the first things that I learned there was that self care is not
Melissa Deally:selfish. And previously, I had always thought that it was and
Melissa Deally:that I had to look after everybody else first before I
Melissa Deally:could look after myself. And I loved how it was presented that
Melissa Deally:it is the most selfless act. And I then added a little bit more
Melissa Deally:of a mantra to that, that self care is the most selfless act
Melissa Deally:because it allows you to show up and give the world the best of
Melissa Deally:you instead of what's left of you.
Alan Carroll:Oh, that's sweet. So you say that again. Go ahead.
Alan Carroll:And
Melissa Deally:self care is the most selfless act because it
Melissa Deally:allows you to show up and give the world the best of you
Melissa Deally:instead of what's left of you. And that was absolutely pivotal
Melissa Deally:for me, because I realized that I was giving my loved ones the
Melissa Deally:ones nearest and dearest to me what was left of me, right, I
Melissa Deally:thought I was serving them first. But I was actually
Melissa Deally:running on empty and giving them what was left of me. And when I
Melissa Deally:flipped it on its head and decided that I could care for
Melissa Deally:myself first, I did have more energy for them. And so then I
Melissa Deally:was able to build into my day and build my day around my self
Melissa Deally:care, which included the mindfulness of a yoga practice,
Melissa Deally:which I love, absolutely love my yoga, the mindful meditation
Melissa Deally:practice, you know, in starting and ending my day was the
Melissa Deally:meditation. I built in a gratitude practice, because I
Melissa Deally:learned that our thoughts are so powerful, and our thoughts
Melissa Deally:impact our actions, our behaviors, our results. So if I
Melissa Deally:could change my thoughts that would change my behaviors that
Melissa Deally:would change my results. And why not create more positivity out
Melissa Deally:there, right? A lot of us go to sleep stressed out, we wake up
Melissa Deally:in the night, we're already thinking about what we need to
Melissa Deally:do the next day, and we're not getting great sleep, which means
Melissa Deally:we wake up tired, less resilient to the stresses of the day. What
Melissa Deally:if we could go to bed and have a really good deep restorative
Melissa Deally:sleep, and one step and that is simply going to bed with
Melissa Deally:positive thoughts running through our mind, because I
Melissa Deally:learned our unconscious mind will work on whatever those last
Melissa Deally:thoughts are we have as we go to sleep, and it will work on them
Melissa Deally:all night long. So what are you thinking about as you're falling
Melissa Deally:asleep? Are you thinking about the action violent movie that
Melissa Deally:you just watched? Are you thinking about the book that you
Melissa Deally:just read? And what are you feeding your mind in those last
Melissa Deally:minutes before you go to sleep? And so what I started doing was
Melissa Deally:feeding my mind gratitude, and thinking about my day, what was
Melissa Deally:I grateful for and writing it down in my journal. And that let
Melissa Deally:me go to sleep with all those positive thoughts and have a
Melissa Deally:deeper, more restorative sleep. It also had just a really
Melissa Deally:profound impact on how I went about my day because now it was
Melissa Deally:in my RAs system that I was looking for gratitude. Our brain
Melissa Deally:is wired to
Alan Carroll:look for danger that was the acronym,
Melissa Deally:their reticular activation system, the RAS
Melissa Deally:system in our brain, that's when it becomes aware of something.
Melissa Deally:So just as an example, you go and buy a new car, and you've
Melissa Deally:you've tested four or five different cars, and you've
Melissa Deally:settled on a Subaru. You've never had a Subaru before. You
Melissa Deally:haven't even noticed them on the road. But it was the best car in
Melissa Deally:the test driving and you love your new Subaru and now you're
Melissa Deally:driving around and oh my goodness, there's Subarus
Melissa Deally:everywhere you look because it's in your reticular activation
Melissa Deally:system, whereas it wasn't before right? So I was doing this with
Melissa Deally:gratitude. And instead of my brain looking for the danger to
Melissa Deally:protect me from it started looking for the things that I
Melissa Deally:could be thankful for. So when I was able to raise my vibration,
Melissa Deally:raise my happiness level because I'm looking for the good In
Melissa Deally:people, I'm looking for the good in my day, versus just relying
Melissa Deally:on my safety mechanisms that are looking for the danger and
Melissa Deally:looking for the negativity. That's the power of gratitude,
Melissa Deally:and having a gratitude journal, and changing our outlook on how
Melissa Deally:we go through our day, how we go through our life. So those are
Melissa Deally:some of the key steps that I am have implemented in the last
Melissa Deally:eight years and continued because I implemented them all
Melissa Deally:very soon after learning all of this. And I've continued my
Melissa Deally:learning. And more recently, in 2022, I really dove into
Melissa Deally:understanding the power of the unconscious mind, as well as
Melissa Deally:hypnosis, and I became trained as a hypnosis teacher. And that
Melissa Deally:is, again, tapping into the ability to go into a deep
Melissa Deally:relaxation. Have the brainwaves that are a theta, brainwave
Melissa Deally:level, where we are going inside? The answers are all
Melissa Deally:inside us. When we slow down, and we pay attention. How many
Melissa Deally:times do we get a symptom of an illness, and we ignore it, it's
Melissa Deally:aging is seasonal allergies, is my genetics, as opposed to
Melissa Deally:recognizing that that symptom is our body's way of talking to us
Melissa Deally:and asking us to do something differently. And when I work
Melissa Deally:with my clients, that's what I'm teaching is I'm teaching the
Melissa Deally:awareness of the way that our body communicates with us. And
Melissa Deally:we can tap into that when we slow down and get into that
Melissa Deally:space of mindfulness. And I'm sure it's very similar to the
Melissa Deally:work that you do, we just may approach it from different ways.
Alan Carroll:One words that I would use stillness. Yes,
Alan Carroll:between the sounds that you speak. The sound is a heat,
Alan Carroll:fire. Stillness is a cool, quiet, still. And there's no
Alan Carroll:stress and stillness. By training people to be still,
Alan Carroll:especially with meditation, I'm a meditation becomes a daily
Alan Carroll:practice that that I Ay, ay, I want. Yes. And I did my work
Alan Carroll:with Sadhguru. And his shamba V. Practice and Sonia, and it's all
Alan Carroll:about becoming still and, and I'm in the psychology business,
Alan Carroll:and we deal with the ego and the being. And you were talking
Alan Carroll:about the mind body relationship. Let's talk a
Alan Carroll:little bit about that. Because it's important that people
Alan Carroll:realize the power of your thoughts, to create the physical
Alan Carroll:changes in your body. And that idea about gratitude is a real
Alan Carroll:sweet idea to focus your attention on what you want to
Alan Carroll:have happen in your life versus, you know, the things that you
Alan Carroll:don't don't like or don't want. And just think about, oh,
Alan Carroll:that's, that's really a valuable gift that you just gave our
Alan Carroll:audience, I want to underline that with a big thank you.
Melissa Deally:My pleasure. And yes, that mind body connection
Melissa Deally:is so powerful. Every single experience that we've ever had,
Melissa Deally:is stored in our mind and body in our cells, as well as in the
Melissa Deally:filing cabinet in our unconscious mind. It retains
Melissa Deally:every single memory without judgment, for later access by
Melissa Deally:the conscious mind. And I think of the the mind, gives the
Melissa Deally:directions and the body is simply the robot. And I'll give
Melissa Deally:you an example of how powerful this is and how our thoughts not
Melissa Deally:only change our, you know our actions and our behaviors and
Melissa Deally:our results, but they will actually biochemically change
Melissa Deally:our body. So if you were to close your eyes right now, and
Melissa Deally:if you're driving listening to this podcast, please don't
Melissa Deally:everybody else, just close your eyes. And imagine that you're
Melissa Deally:standing in your kitchen and you can see all the counter spaces
Melissa Deally:and you can see your refrigerator right in front of
Melissa Deally:you. And I want you to go to your refrigerator and open up
Melissa Deally:the door. And then open up one of the drawers in your
Melissa Deally:refrigerator and pull out a nice, juicy yellow lemon. And as
Melissa Deally:you do that, close the door, close your refrigerator door and
Melissa Deally:lift that lemon up to your nose and smell that lemons sent. And
Melissa Deally:now I want you to take that lemon over to the counter, get
Melissa Deally:your cutting board, get yourself a knife and slice that lemon in
Melissa Deally:half. And as you slice that lemon in half, you feel some
Melissa Deally:juices spray out and land on your fingertips. And I want you
Melissa Deally:to slice that one half in half again, and in half again. So now
Melissa Deally:you have a nice one eight wedge of lemon, and bring that lemon
Melissa Deally:up to your mouth and bite into it. It's so juicy. And then
Melissa Deally:you're going to throw that rind away as you enjoy that lovely
Melissa Deally:fresh lemon. And now I want you to open your eyes. And tell me
Melissa Deally:what happened. Did you notice saliva start forming in your
Melissa Deally:mouth, as you were imagining, slicing and biting into that
Melissa Deally:lemon
Alan Carroll:was like it was real, the same kind of reaction
Alan Carroll:that I would have over the real lemon. My, my body was specially
Alan Carroll:in my mouth, there was a bitter Oh, it's gonna be bitter. You
Alan Carroll:know, I could feel it.
Melissa Deally:Exactly. And so that shows you the power of our
Melissa Deally:imagination, which is all in our unconscious mind, your ability
Melissa Deally:to pull on past experiences to be able to create that image in
Melissa Deally:your mind of that lemon. As if you were really doing it, the
Melissa Deally:mind doesn't know the difference between what's real and what's
Melissa Deally:imagined. And so as a result, even though I had to imagine it,
Melissa Deally:the mind thought it was real. So it thought you're gonna eat the
Melissa Deally:lemon. So it starts producing salivary enzymes in your body.
Melissa Deally:How cool is that. So that's why I say the body is the robot of
Melissa Deally:what we're thinking in our mind. And this is powerful, because
Melissa Deally:when we tap into the unconscious mind, which is where we have
Melissa Deally:access to 90% of what our mind can access versus the 10%. In
Melissa Deally:our conscious mind, we have access to so many more
Melissa Deally:resources. And this is the power of hypnotherapy. It's the power
Melissa Deally:of mindfulness. It's the power of imagination. Willpower,
Melissa Deally:people try to do things by willpower, make change
Melissa Deally:behaviors, etc. And that is all conscious. And it doesn't work.
Melissa Deally:Because we know and we know it doesn't work, because by the end
Melissa Deally:of January, most people have fallen off their new year's
Melissa Deally:resolutions, right. But when we instead tap into the unconscious
Melissa Deally:mind, we can create behavioral change that lasts. And we can do
Melissa Deally:it quickly and effectively. Because our mind controls the
Melissa Deally:body to that extent. And this is really, really powerful
Melissa Deally:knowledge to have. And it all ties into mindfulness, and
Melissa Deally:understanding the importance of our mind, the value of our mind
Melissa Deally:and our ability to calm our mind, which is so important in
Melissa Deally:today's world because as you mentioned earlier, we're living
Melissa Deally:in a stressed out stage, the world was the most stressed out
Melissa Deally:it had ever been before the pandemic. And now it's worse and
Melissa Deally:everybody looks around and sees everyone else stressed out and
Melissa Deally:normalizes it and just assumes that it's okay. And they don't
Melissa Deally:realize the downside negative effects that it's having on
Melissa Deally:their health. 90% of all doctor's visits are due to
Melissa Deally:stress. 65% of all chronic illness and disease is due to
Melissa Deally:stress. So we as a human population, need to learn to
Melissa Deally:calm our mind, which will calm our body and get us out of that
Melissa Deally:fight or flight state that is meant to only be to get us to
Melissa Deally:safety in dire moments of a tiger chasing us when we're
Melissa Deally:hunting for food versus in and out of it all day long because
Melissa Deally:your boss yelled at you when your kids are cranky and your
Melissa Deally:you and your husband had a spat and you got stuck in traffic and
Melissa Deally:you got a flat tire and you got to the gas station and they had
Melissa Deally:no gas and all those other things that happened we need to
Melissa Deally:learn to calm our bodies for long term health and wellness
Melissa Deally:but also for our happiness today because in that stressed out
Melissa Deally:state it's really hard to find happiness and joy and live in
Melissa Deally:that place.
Alan Carroll:I like to jump into the calm the body calm the
Alan Carroll:body to me is well yeah, I got my mind knows I can't control my
Alan Carroll:thoughts but I can control a lot of things about my body if I
Alan Carroll:choose to. Got to give up the thoughts, but And you talked
Alan Carroll:about breathing. And so let's talk a little bit about the
Alan Carroll:value of conscious breathing.
Melissa Deally:The value of conscious breathing is simply
Melissa Deally:think that it does trick your brain into believing it's safe.
Melissa Deally:And it gets you out of that fight or flight state and into
Melissa Deally:your rest and digest state. And so it is very calming on the
Melissa Deally:mind and the entire body. And again, it doesn't have to take
Melissa Deally:long, all of the mindful mindfulness activities we're
Melissa Deally:talking about can be done in little short spurts five minutes
Melissa Deally:throughout the day, 15 minutes, you don't have to find an hour
Melissa Deally:in your, in your calendar. To do this, just start with five
Melissa Deally:minutes and build on that. And once you've built on that, you
Melissa Deally:will notice that you're more productive, because you're less
Melissa Deally:stressed, you're more focused, and then you're more productive,
Melissa Deally:you get more done. And that in, in and of itself creates more
Melissa Deally:time for you to spend in mindfulness. So breath work, my
Melissa Deally:favorite technique is called 557. Breathing. And you
Melissa Deally:literally breathe in for five counts, you hold for five
Melissa Deally:counts, and you exhale for seven counts. And you do this for 10
Melissa Deally:cycles. And the brain catches on and goes, hmm, I thought I was
Melissa Deally:stressed out. But I'm breathing like a safe person, I must be
Melissa Deally:safe. And that's when it will switch off the fight or flight
Melissa Deally:system and turn on the rest and digest system. And that's
Melissa Deally:because if you are running away from a tiger, you're going to be
Melissa Deally:running hard. And therefore panting, there's no way your
Melissa Deally:exhale is longer than your inhale in that stress moment of
Melissa Deally:getting to safety. So by making the exhale longer than the
Melissa Deally:inhale, it tells the brain you're safe. The other thing
Melissa Deally:that it does is so often when we're in a stressed out state,
Melissa Deally:is we've got all these thoughts ruminating in our mind, and we
Melissa Deally:can't keep up. But when we have to start doing all of this
Melissa Deally:counting of 557 and 10 cycles, I don't know about you, but I
Melissa Deally:count the 557 in my head, but I count the 10 cycles on my
Melissa Deally:fingers. So all of this concentration on the counting
Melissa Deally:releases whatever was running around in your mind so
Melissa Deally:frantically having you stressed out. So it has a double whammy
Melissa Deally:positive effect. This can be used anywhere you can do this
Melissa Deally:when you're driving and stuck in traffic and you're going to be
Melissa Deally:late you can do this just sitting at your desk, you can do
Melissa Deally:this before you eat a meal, it's actually really helpful to do
Melissa Deally:that. Because it actually turns on your digestive system because
Melissa Deally:it's a rest and digest state. And it allows your body to
Melissa Deally:properly digest your meal and get the nutrients from that
Melissa Deally:meal. You can do this if you wake up in the middle of the
Melissa Deally:night, and you can't get back to sleep. Because the mind is
Melissa Deally:already thinking about the next day. You shut that off, you
Melissa Deally:start doing your counting. And you'll fall asleep again. If
Melissa Deally:you'd like me fall asleep before you get to number eight. I don't
Melissa Deally:do it very often, but when I do, I've never actually got past
Melissa Deally:number eight before I fallen asleep again. So it's a very
Melissa Deally:powerful technique. And if you would like I can just guide you
Melissa Deally:through a couple of rounds of it so you can experience it. The
Melissa Deally:listeners can experience it again, as long as we're not
Alan Carroll:sure. Okay, my eyes.
Melissa Deally:Yeah, I'm gonna have you close your eyes. Again,
Melissa Deally:anybody listening and not driving close your eyes because
Melissa Deally:just closing your eyes allows your brain to settle and calm
Melissa Deally:because we get so much in through our eyes, so much
Melissa Deally:information and when we close our eyes, it'll just that allows
Melissa Deally:the brain to start calming. Of course, if you're driving please
Melissa Deally:don't close your eyes, but you can do this with me anyway. So I
Melissa Deally:want you to inhale 2345 Hold 2345 exhale 234567 inhale 2345
Melissa Deally:Hold 2345 exhale 234567 inhale 2345 Hold 2345 exhale 234567
Melissa Deally:inhale 2345 Hold 2345 exhale. 234567 inhale 2345 Hold 2345
Melissa Deally:exhale 234567 So now open your eyes when you're ready? And how
Melissa Deally:was that?
Alan Carroll:You feel? grounded? Yes, you're you're no
Alan Carroll:longer lost in the dream of thoughts you are anchored in an
Alan Carroll:energy field in your in your body? Because that's where I'm
Alan Carroll:putting my attention. Yes, I will go on, it's gonna
Melissa Deally:say it's very, very calming for people. So the
Melissa Deally:listeners are probably thinking, Oh, I just feel calmer, right? I
Melissa Deally:only did five rounds. And it only took about two minutes. So
Melissa Deally:do the 10 rounds, so that your brain goes hmm, I thought I was
Melissa Deally:stressed out. But I'm breathing like a safe person, I must be
Melissa Deally:safe, and it will switch into your rest and digest nervous
Melissa Deally:system.
Alan Carroll:Well, I love it. I love the practical things that
Alan Carroll:you don't need to go to the university for 50 years or
Alan Carroll:sitting on top of the mountain, you have access to this tool of
Alan Carroll:mindfulness called breathing. become more conscious of your
Alan Carroll:breathing. And you have to pay it in the Buddhist tradition
Alan Carroll:they talk about disembodied, is your following your thoughts in
Alan Carroll:body you're following your body. And anytime you can cut the
Alan Carroll:connection between the mind doing the the mind thing and the
Alan Carroll:body, it disrupts the the pattern, and you are released
Alan Carroll:from the from the grip of the thoughts. And that's freedom.
Alan Carroll:That's that's in India, they call it mukti to be able to
Alan Carroll:release yourself from the grip of the thoughts. But most
Alan Carroll:people, what do you mean, grip on my thoughts? What do you
Alan Carroll:mean, they don't they don't understand the concept that the
Alan Carroll:thought is something that exists in a space. And if you begin to
Alan Carroll:focus on the space, rather than the thought, the thought becomes
Alan Carroll:observable. And and when he can when you can observe the thought
Alan Carroll:you can manage the thought to think thoughts of gratitude,
Alan Carroll:rather than thoughts about things that would be detrimental
Alan Carroll:to my physical body. And so that's real, powerful wisdom
Alan Carroll:that you share with us. I really appreciate that.
Melissa Deally:Well, and I think that ties in back to what
Melissa Deally:I was saying earlier that everything happens for us.
Melissa Deally:Right. So when we're in that moment of struggle, and
Melissa Deally:potentially going into victimhood and the thoughts
Melissa Deally:running around in our mind about why mean data out at Ah, yeah,
Melissa Deally:if we can pull ourselves out of that thought pattern and into if
Melissa Deally:everything happens for us, why is this happening? Now? What am
Melissa Deally:I supposed to learn here? Because when we learn, we move
Melissa Deally:through it and get beyond it. And there is always to learning?
Melissa Deally:Why was I let go from work from my job that I love for 24 years.
Melissa Deally:Because I hadn't yet found my purpose. I didn't even know I
Melissa Deally:had a purpose to find in all honesty. However, that journey
Melissa Deally:led me here where my purpose has been very clear. I've found my
Melissa Deally:passion. I love this work. And if I hadn't been let go, I would
Melissa Deally:have stayed where I was right sitting in the middle of my
Melissa Deally:comfort zone. Why did my kids have concussions part of that
Melissa Deally:was because I it was part of getting me to where I'm at, but
Melissa Deally:also for them. My oldest daughter wasn't ready to go to
Melissa Deally:university that year, she was doing what everybody else was
Melissa Deally:doing and applying and she got rejected by her first choice
Melissa Deally:University. So she applied it another one, that rejection was
Melissa Deally:a sign because it didn't come when all the other rejection
Melissa Deally:letters came out. It came later, she had been tentatively
Melissa Deally:accepted and then got rejected. And I wondered what the sign of
Melissa Deally:that rejection was and I didn't know it at the time. Then she
Melissa Deally:got accepted at her second choice University and the next
Melissa Deally:day got a concussion. And that told me, she simply wasn't meant
Melissa Deally:to go to university yet. And if she kept, you know, getting
Melissa Deally:rejected and applying and getting into other places that
Melissa Deally:wasn't going to work for the universal plan for her, right.
Melissa Deally:So they gave her a concussion which was also aligned with my
Melissa Deally:learning and moving me into health and wellness. And it had
Melissa Deally:her not go to university and to the following year when she was
Melissa Deally:much more mature and ready and able to go and live away from
Melissa Deally:home across the country. And everything happens for a reason.
Melissa Deally:And what I find is when I apply that the stress of whatever that
Melissa Deally:situation is is released Because I know what's happening for me,
Melissa Deally:not to me. And when I step into that place, I'm open to the
Melissa Deally:learning, it still might not be a great situation. But I'm open
Melissa Deally:to the learning. And I've moved myself out of victimhood, and
Melissa Deally:keeping myself in this stress. And that's the power of our mind
Melissa Deally:that we can do that we have 70,000 thoughts in our mind
Melissa Deally:every single day? What are you saying to yourself? If you spoke
Melissa Deally:to your friends, the way you speak to yourself, would you
Melissa Deally:even have any friends? Are you aware of what you're saying to
Melissa Deally:yourself, because a lot of it is deeply embedded in our
Melissa Deally:unconscious mind that was routed there in our, you know, zero to
Melissa Deally:six age group, or years, and is no longer serving us as adults,
Melissa Deally:it served us then it had a purpose, then it's no longer
Melissa Deally:serving us as adults. And it's the root of our limiting
Melissa Deally:beliefs. And so that's work that I do with clients as well as we
Melissa Deally:will use timeline therapy to release the negative emotions
Melissa Deally:that people are carrying around because they've been squashed
Melissa Deally:down. Because we've been taught not to feel our emotions, and
Melissa Deally:they're stored in our body in our cells, as I said earlier,
Melissa Deally:that can create toxicity in and of themselves and cause disease.
Melissa Deally:We release all of that. And we release those limiting beliefs,
Melissa Deally:and shift you into the beliefs that you want to have that will
Melissa Deally:serve you in moving forward in your life. And it's powerful
Melissa Deally:work. Our mind is so powerful, and we only know this much about
Melissa Deally:it. But the more I learn, the more I am absolutely blown away,
Melissa Deally:blown away by the power of our own mind that we carry with us
Melissa Deally:each and every day. And that unfortunately, this isn't taught
Melissa Deally:through our education system. But I truly wish it was we could
Melissa Deally:teach this to our elementary school students. It's starting
Melissa Deally:to happen, actually, at my local high school, they now do
Melissa Deally:actually have a mindfulness class, which teaches yoga to our
Melissa Deally:high school students, which I'm thrilled about, I started trying
Melissa Deally:to implement that back when my kids were in elementary school.
Melissa Deally:And at the time, unfortunately, I was told we can't have yoga
Melissa Deally:classes at school, because that's got religious
Melissa Deally:connotations. And we don't do religion in public school. And
Melissa Deally:that might count we just call it stretching class, then quiet
Melissa Deally:time and stretching class. It took me until my daughter was in
Melissa Deally:grade 10. And I was working at that holistic clinic. And we
Melissa Deally:owned a yoga studio as well. And it was right across the street
Melissa Deally:from the high school. And I was able to get our high school kids
Melissa Deally:to come to yoga classes during their gym class for one year.
Melissa Deally:And that was great. And then what happened is they had a gym
Melissa Deally:instructor go and do a mindfulness teaching course so
Melissa Deally:that she could then teach mindfulness in high school. So
Melissa Deally:we're getting there, we're getting there.
Alan Carroll:I love it. My thought about the speaking piece
Alan Carroll:is that the the creation of the pause, between the sounds can be
Alan Carroll:taught to very young children. And you can disrupt the
Alan Carroll:speaking, which is the ego, to shift to the empty space of the
Alan Carroll:being at an early age, then there's less resistance to
Alan Carroll:what's going on in front of them. Because there's now a
Alan Carroll:space you've been practicing between the sounds you speak,
Alan Carroll:but also disrupts the thoughts that you think. And then you get
Alan Carroll:to experience what's on the other side of the thoughts that
Alan Carroll:you're thinking, which is that infinite space of being, but you
Alan Carroll:never get to do that, because you're too You're too
Alan Carroll:constipated on your ego, you're hurt by your thoughts. And I
Alan Carroll:call that in my business, the the aeration of your thoughts
Alan Carroll:when you speak, just begin to aerate, put spaces. And you'll
Alan Carroll:notice that the oxygen flows through the empty spaces into
Alan Carroll:your body, and the and the relaxed waves of relaxation flow
Alan Carroll:through the empty spaces that you just created. And you're
Alan Carroll:speaking. And now that will be a lot without there'll be a it's
Alan Carroll:free. It's easy. You could you can easily teach a teacher to
Alan Carroll:play a game of let's play a game of pausing. And it's so easy and
Alan Carroll:it's so relaxing and allows so many things to happen and it's
Alan Carroll:an it's free. Well, before we complete the podcast, I just
Alan Carroll:want to thank you. Melissa was listening to an oracle system of
Alan Carroll:wisdom you have focused your energy on a particular path and
Alan Carroll:you are building your muscles on that path and You're able then
Alan Carroll:to coach other people who are on that path by using these
Alan Carroll:practical gifts that you've developed in your own in your
Alan Carroll:own experience. And before it, is there anything else you'd
Alan Carroll:like to share with the audience, that that would be ways of
Alan Carroll:contacting, you know, programs that we can contact you that
Alan Carroll:you'd like to share now with the audience?
Melissa Deally:Sure, thank you very much. So the easiest way to
Melissa Deally:contact me is simply Melissa at your guided health journey.com.
Melissa Deally:Or if you go to my website, your guided health journey.com, there
Melissa Deally:is a contact button there that you can use as well. One of the
Melissa Deally:programs that is new for this year that I'll be teaching every
Melissa Deally:month, I'm actually teaching it this Saturday and again, in
Melissa Deally:March and onwards, is learn self hypnosis is this is a tool that
Melissa Deally:you can have to use for the rest of your life. That is a form of
Melissa Deally:mindfulness, it's tapping into the power of your unconscious
Melissa Deally:mind, to affect the change that you want to create in your life.
Melissa Deally:It puts you in the driver's seat, it gives you that freedom
Melissa Deally:that you mentioned earlier, Alan, and it's a one day
Melissa Deally:masterclass. It's very experiential. It's a ton of fun,
Melissa Deally:because again, remember, the unconscious mind is all about
Melissa Deally:imagination. Playfulness is literally the age of a toddler.
Melissa Deally:So that's where we get to play during that day. And you walk
Melissa Deally:away with skills that as I said, you can use for the rest of your
Melissa Deally:life that will give you 10,000 times more focus on whatever it
Melissa Deally:is that you want to achieve. And you can literally Hypnotize
Melissa Deally:yourself into calm into joy into passion into love into health,
Melissa Deally:into all the positives that you want in your life. And it's easy
Melissa Deally:to do. And you can again, do it anytime, anywhere in just five
Melissa Deally:minutes once you learn now.
Alan Carroll:Oh, wow, that's exciting.
Melissa Deally:It is. It really is. I've had so much fun
Melissa Deally:teaching it this year, and had great testimonials from
Melissa Deally:participants that have already done the course with me. Again,
Melissa Deally:we could be teaching it in elementary school, we're not.
Melissa Deally:But I love sharing this with the world to give people the tools
Melissa Deally:and allow them to understand the power of their mind, and be able
Melissa Deally:to have tools that they can use every day for the rest of their
Melissa Deally:life.
Alan Carroll:Wonderful. Well, thank you for all the tools and
Alan Carroll:experiences of using the tools and how it altered your life and
Alan Carroll:changed your life. And I especially especially what
Alan Carroll:resonates in my mind is that journal of gratitude. That was a
Alan Carroll:nice thought about oh yeah, I could focus on giving life
Alan Carroll:support to that thought, rather than giving life support to
Alan Carroll:these other thoughts. So thank you again, Melissa, for being a
Alan Carroll:wonderful guest on the mindful podcast.
Melissa Deally:It's absolutely my pleasure. Thank you for
Melissa Deally:having me, Alan.