Episode 27

Mindful Path To Self-Discovery: Balancing, Breathing, And Letting Go For Enhanced Awareness And Emotional Well-Being With Lesley Evans

Alan speaks with International Speaker and Best-Selling Author, Lesley Evan in this episode of Mindful You. It is important to always be finding ways to discover yourself and connect with yourself. There are many different mindful activities that support you becoming more balanced. Lesley discusses the importance of the breath to help settle your mind and the importance of learning how to let go.

About The Guest:

Lesley is International Speaker and Best-Selling Author of DeFUNK YourSELF. She has developed a perfect blend of modern and magical therapies to find your passion and live an inspired life.

Lesley has 30 years of experience as a RPN. She is a Clinical Hypnotherapist, Soul Care Coach and Reiki Master. She believes, like The Rising Phoenix, that everyone can rise from the ashes of their old life and build themselves stronger to shine their light into the world.

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About Alan:

Alan Carroll is an Educational Psychologist who specializes in Transpersonal Psychology. He founded Alan Carroll & Associates 30 years ago and before that, he was a Senior Sales Training Consultant for 10 years at Digital Equipment Corporation. He has dedicated his life in search of mindfulness tools that can be used by everyone (young and old) to transform their ability to speak at a professional level, as well as, to reduce the psychological suffering caused by the misidentification with our ego and reconnect to the vast transcendent dimension of consciousness that lies just on the other side of the thoughts we think and in between the words we speak.

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Transcript
Alan Carroll:

Hello, everybody. Welcome back to the mindful you

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podcast. I'm Alan Carroll, and I am your host. As we journey

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together, down the various paths of mindfulness, as our guests,

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share their stories, share their discoveries, share their tips,

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and practices with us, so that we can strengthen our own

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mindfulness skills, and live a more mindful, still present time

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existence. Today's guest, Leslie Evans, Leslie, for 30 years was

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a psychiatric nurse done all the things that you think you should

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do marry her childhood sweetheart, three wonderful

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children, great job, house. And after having all these material

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things, and all these things that you think you should have,

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in order to be happy, Leslie wasn't happy. And which then

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motivated her to take a look at, well, what works, what doesn't

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work. And she shifted her entire life. And she shares with us her

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journey from the psychiatric being a nurse in the hospitals,

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to the spiritual dimensions, and how to balance that mindfulness,

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spiritual development with the scientific medicine background

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that she has, and weave the two together to create a healing

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that will support people in their journeys into mindfulness.

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So it's with fun and pleasure and happiness, to be able to

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welcome Leslie Evans to the mindful U podcast. Lesley Evans,

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welcome to the mindful U Podcast. I'm excited to zap an

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opportunity to hear your story and hear your experiences as you

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traveled and evolved over time. And as I read your bio, I

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especially was caught by the word magic. And I find that

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mindfulness and magic and mystical and miracles sort of

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form and the same, same genre, the same environment. So share

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with our share with our audience a little bit about your

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background, Leslie.

Lesley Evan:

Absolutely. Thank you, Ellen. First, I want to

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thank you for having me here and chatting with you today. It's an

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honor to be able to be here and share. A so yes, I have a

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background in psychiatric nursing. And I have been a

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psychiatric nurse for over 30 years. And, you know, really, I

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started off with this checklist. And that checklist of everything

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you think you want in life. You know, I graduated from

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psychiatric nursing, got a job in public health, I married my

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college sweetheart, we bought a house had three kids, blah,

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blah, you know, the list goes on, the list goes on. And I have

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three beautiful girls. And as I checked off that list, you know,

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making sure that list was going exactly the way I thought it was

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supposed to go. I realized I began to lose myself in that

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process. And you know, because I was so busy making sure

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everybody on my list was doing well. And everything on my list

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was going well. And I was having this conversation with my eldest

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daughter who was 16 at the time, and she was having trouble with

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the boy. And the boy was you know, just, she wasn't dancing,

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wasn't singing wasn't doing all those things she would normally

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do. And I give her the great motherly advice. If they truly

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love you or they truly care about you, they will encourage

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you to be everything that you want to be and encourage you to

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do those things. But it's such a moment for me because I had to

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take a really good look at myself. I guess I didn't have to

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I chose to take a really good look at myself in that moment at

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what I was teaching my girls that I was teaching them that

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you know the list were more importantly and and that they

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should sacrifice themselves for all of those people that were

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important to them or if you Pull in their lives. And, and so I

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had to take a really good look at myself, I really wasn't being

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very present because I was always everywhere making sure

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everybody else was doing okay, and not realizing that I was

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kind of losing myself in the process. And so with that

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thought, a lot of changes came around, I chose to make quite a

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few changes in my life. One of those I ended a 21 year

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marriage, we knew that we weren't healthy for each other,

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nevermind our kids. And I began this journey. That's really

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where the journey began, I had always been intuitive. But I

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didn't actually know that's what was happening. I just knew

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stuff. And I thought, Wow, I'm just really good at knowing

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stuff. And I didn't know where that came from. And so when,

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when I separated and started this new life with my girls, and

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my mom came with us, too, I was primary sport to her. It was

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really about finding out who I was, and what I loved. And, and,

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and what I wanted to do when I grew up. And so took this

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journey of really connecting with myself, and the universe,

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or spirit, or God, whatever way you describe it, creator. And so

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that's what brought me to where I am. Now. See, I had taught, in

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my therapy days and thought a lot, I taught a lot about

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mindfulness as a great thing for anxiety and depression. But I

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wasn't living mindfully, right. So I wasn't living what I was

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teaching. And so that was my journey. And where I really

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began to do that is really sinking into this present

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moment. And that's where my journey started to really

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flourish to is when I began to appreciate the moment in

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everything it was, because just because I started living

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mindfully and started connecting with myself, doesn't mean my

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journey was easy the whole time. But I was you can look at it

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from a different view, when you're looking at things from

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that mindful or presence, being present in it. That you can make

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choices differently when you're here in this moment. And so

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that's where the journey took me to where I am now. So I left

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public health. And I now work privately. And, you know, really

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marrying both of these worlds together. My science background,

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my nursing therapy background, and the woowoo or the spiritual

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background it is. So I kind of have this bridge, I have the

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science and then I have hypnotherapy that kind of

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bridges the two worlds. And then also, I work in the Akashic

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Records, which is where your soul's journey is, is sort of

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recorded. And so I help people on a conscious, subconscious,

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and soul level.

Alan Carroll:

Wow, that's a that's a lot of things. That's a

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lot of things. The it sounds it sounds like you had a you live

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the life where you had all the things that you should have. And

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they reached the point where you sort of woke up in a way and

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said, You know what, I have a lot of these things. However, I

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miss, I'm missing something. And sounds like what you were

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missing was a feeling of, of self awareness or self

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discovery. Or there's something missing here. I'm not sure

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what's missing. But there's something missing, which then

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directed you to a more mindfulness experience. And as

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you talk about mindfulness, what were some of the mindfulness

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activities or things that you began to, to do to support you

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and getting more balanced?

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So as far as mindfulness activities, there's

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lots of Annelle speak on mindfulness to the cows come

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home, Alan, I love it. I think it's such an important piece of,

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of being able to live a full life. For me, it was really

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starting to be mindful in moments all through my life. I

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think a lot of people think mindfulness is just a

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meditation, but it isn't. It's about living every moment you

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can in the present moment. And so when I, you know, when we

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find ourselves or I found myself, my thoughts really

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going, it's that awareness. Oh, my thoughts are really going.

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It's time to bring them down. And so I even did Things like

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walking from, say the car to an appointment, maybe I was worried

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about that appointment, started realizing those thoughts going,

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and really slowing them down and focusing on what my body's doing

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the miracle of my body, the muscles moving to get me from

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the car to this appointment, I really focusing in on that, you

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know, the breeze in my hair, the way my arms move, really coming

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into those moments. So fitting those in mindful eating, I don't

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know, Alan, if you've never tried mindful eating, it's a an

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a different experience, especially if you're, say, a

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coffee drinker or tea drinker, I'm a tea drinker. And so

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mindfully, drinking my tea is just the difference in the way

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it tastes. Because you can tell that it tastes different at the

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front of your mouth and the back of your mouth. And just little

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ways to incorporate mindfulness and things that we're already

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doing is really important. And so in, in being able to

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incorporate those things, whether it's time with family.

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So really being in that moment with the people that you love,

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and listening, just like we are here, you know, you're listening

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to what I say, and I'm listening to what you say, you miss so

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much when you're not mindfully there. And in business, or at

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work, to really being there, focusing on whatever the task

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is, means that you get more done, and you feel better at the

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end of the day, and you get it done better. So those things

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were all the things that I incorporated in life to bring me

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to more presence. But then there's also the meditation and

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the stillness, and yes, I, I, every morning, meditate, and

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really connect spiritually, for myself, probably, I don't know,

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probably about half an hour when I, you know, when I set that

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time aside for myself, and all of this has led me to be able to

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make choices that were for my highest good.

Alan Carroll:

Excellent, I find that the the ability to choose

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what we before mindfulness, people or myself unconscious,

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automatic reacting, then, rather than wait a minute, take that

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breath, ground ground, my feet get centered. Notice that

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there's an emotion stirring up inside of me right now. Notice I

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have thoughts about that person over there. And rather than

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react to it, that little space of stillness, pausing,

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breathing, relaxes the physical body. And somehow, if I can keep

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my body physically relaxed, everything seems to be fine. But

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when that tension occurs, when that thoughts occur when those

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attack thoughts occur, and those ego thoughts occur, and those

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upset thoughts occur, I notice that it it there's a

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corresponding tension in my physical body. At the time, I'm

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having those thoughts. And so I pretty sure that's what you're

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saying, you've experienced also that you keeping your body

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relaxed, keeping your body energized, keeping your body

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oxygenated, allows you to better handle whatever's coming down,

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coming down the pipe coming at you. Is that is that? Am I

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close?

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Oh, I mean, breathing. In fact, I was like, I didn't

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even mention breathing and all that. And that is one of the

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first things I'll tell people, when they have when they come to

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me with overwhelm or anxiety or anything like that is breathe

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and they're like what it took my my mind tells me I can't Yes,

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that's when it's even more important to breathe. Because

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you're right, physically, just bringing that oxygen in,

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physically settled. So symptoms so you can start to settle your

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mind a little bit. And I have a really great example of that

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sort of that breathing and taking that moment and that

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walking. I was working with it fella and we were talking about

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mindfulness and he was just sort of this. I don't know about this

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stuff that you're teaching me but I'll give it a try. And he

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was going he'd been off work because he had some, you know,

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depression and anger and he was going back to work. And starting

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back to work, he came back the next week to the to our group.

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And he said, I tried your mindful walking thing. You said,

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I was at work for a few days. And I got called into the boss's

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office. And so for the couple of minutes, he said, I could feel

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my anxiety starting to go up. And so I said, I'm going to use

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that mindful walking that you taught me. And he walked

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mindfully, just for those three minutes it took to get to the

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boss's office, the boss called him and he said, Hey, I just

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wanted to tell you that I noticed how well you're doing.

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And it's great to have you back. And what he said was, had he

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been what he did before was get himself all worked up and into a

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defensive mode ready to argue, he would have probably started

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an argument that wasn't even there. And he wouldn't have

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brought in the feedback that he had just gotten that the boss

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was clouding his back.

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Such an important observation is that we create in

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our mind, what we think is happening. And we start to

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behave as if that is true that that's not fiction. But that's

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reality. And mindfulness, what you're talking about, Leslie is

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that mindfulness allows you to observe what's going on. And

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then to be able to step back and think about a solution, or a

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move I can make in the chess game. And in this situation, you

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know what, Lesley talked about mindful, breathing, walking

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thing, I think I'll try that. But that requires you to wake up

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that requires you in the midst of the nervousness about what my

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boss is going to say, I have to have that thought in my mind

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about Leslie told me to do something, and I'll be able to

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do it, and it worked. And so the key I find in mindfulness is

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that it requires you to wake up to the automatic reaction that

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you are having in the moment to realize there's another

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alternative, and you use the word earlier choice. And I'd

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like you to share a little bit about that, about that waking up

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process, and also about how it allows you to make healthier

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choices, the more mindful you are, you don't get seduced by

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the by the boss calling you on the phone, it's going to be

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terrible. Well, that's like you're, you're creating

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something that's not true.

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Right, right. You know, I, when I hear you talking about

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the wakeup process, you know, this is all about awareness. And

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for many people, we haven't learned to observe ourselves,

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right? We just react, you know, bluntly, you know, this happens

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when you read, but there's lots of in our subconscious has said,

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when this happens, you need to react like this. But what our

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subconscious does is it also, when it finds this works for

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you, whether it's good or bad, this is the way you react, it

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puts it over several different situations. So it might not even

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be the same situation. So you've gotten upset over one situation,

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another, another one comes up, you'll have that same reaction,

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because the subconscious is kind of saying, Oh, this is how we

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react. And so when you just you're not thinking so you're

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going through mindlessly, you just you know, you're just

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allowing those reactions to go. And so the biggest thing is that

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we need to become more aware. You can learn it, you can learn

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to become more aware. And and I think that's one of the biggest

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things that I hear from people is how do I you know, how do I

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stop this or I don't even know I don't even see it coming. I

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said, Alright, let's learn how to be aware. And that's really,

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it's a very purposeful way. When you're talking about emotions.

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You know, emotions have been given a really bad rap that we

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shouldn't feel, you know, I don't like to call them positive

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or negative, or good or bad. They just are they're

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comfortable and uncomfortable, but they're not good or bad.

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They're just letting us know our thoughts are off. Or maybe

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there's something going on with our thinking. And so that

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awareness starts to build just like we knew described it. Oh,

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I'm feeling a different emotion. Oh, I don't feel very

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comfortable with this emotion. What is going on in my head?

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Yes. Right? What is going on my head, and then you can start to

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look at that thought and go, you can learn how to challenge that

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thought, like your boss calls you. Okay? Well, not every time

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I talk to the boss, it's bad. So, you know, you can challenge

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that in the moment. But the awareness is the first piece.

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And I think that's what you're talking about without waking up.

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It's purposefully starting to be aware, and what you know,

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observing your emotions from this place of, they're not good

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or bad. They just are, and they're telling you something.

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Yep, a key word do that. Yeah, sorry, go ahead. A key word

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that you're using couple of times, is being able

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to observe or being able to observe the thought that you

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just pass through your consciousness, being able to

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observe the emotion in your body, being able to observe the

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tension in your body, being able to observe the the anger and the

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attack, and I need to defend and you're wrong, and I'm right, to

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be able to observe that. And to me, that is, that's not natural.

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That is not what people are trained to do. And with

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training, you can develop your observation muscles. So what are

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some of the training exercises that people could do to become

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more awake, so they can make that conscious choice rather

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than that unconscious, reactive, automatic conditioned reaction?

Unknown:

Right? So a couple of things I talked about walking.

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So this is just bringing those thoughts down?

Alan Carroll:

Well, let's talk about walking meditation. Let's

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talk about walking meditation. People don't know what that

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means. What does a walking meditation look like?

Unknown:

So I'm just even going to break it down even further to

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the transition steps that we take every day, from our

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bedroom, to the kitchen, from the kitchen, to the living room,

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to from the car to an appointment, these are steps

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that we often let our mind go with what we need to do in the

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day, right? That's where our minds kind of go, and one of the

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things you can do is start to train your brain. Yeah, this is

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the time you want to slow it down. That train your brain,

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yes, you can train your brain. So you start to say, Okay, I'm

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going to choose, when I get up, I'm going to walk to the

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kitchen, and I'm going to focus on what my body is doing. I know

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I mentioned this earlier. And your brain might say, Yeah, but

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this is when we think of everything we need to do in that

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day. And so you just give that observation, you can just say,

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Okay, thank you. Thanks for Thanks for telling me about

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that. And almost like a conveyor belt, let that move through your

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brain and drop off. Or right now I want to focus on what my

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body's doing. So it's training your brain that when you're

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taking those transition steps, that it's time to quiet down.

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Time to just be quiet. And it takes a little bit is a

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practice. And I like to call this a mindfulness practice.

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It's not a mindfulness perfect. It's a mindfulness practice. And

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so it'll take some time. But I can almost guarantee you that if

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you start using those transition steps to quiet your mind, you'll

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learn other places to do it, too. So that's one thing that I

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think is really important, just really those little steps to

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places where we let our mind run is just, again, thank you. Right

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now I want to focus on what my body is doing. The second thing

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that I think is really important is that we start is really

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observing our moods. So often give people a mood, you know, a

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mood chart. So four times a day. It doesn't matter what you're

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doing, you just check in. And I like to say name three moods,

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three moods that you're feeling in this moment, no judgment? No,

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why you're feeling them, it doesn't matter. We just want you

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to observe what your mood is or times the day. And what can

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happen is I've had people that have said, I'm just a really

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angry person. And when we did this, throughout the week, they

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found out that sometimes they were embarrassed first. Or

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sometimes they were scared first. Or sometimes they were

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worried or frustrated that they weren't just an angry person.

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That's just where it ended up. And so when they were able to

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start seeing those emotions at lower levels, then they could do

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something at that level rather than letting their emotions get

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up to this high point.

Alan Carroll:

You bet. You bet. Every time If you see something,

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observe something, I like to describe it as you're creating a

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little space. And every time you do it, you create another little

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space, and another little space and another little space. And

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pretty soon this the storm door of winter changes to the screen

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door a summer. And the end, you no longer resist things anymore,

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they flow through you, because you now have all these spaces

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that you've created bit, by bit, by bit by bit. And to me that

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develops this, this, this, this witness inside of ourselves,

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this observer inside of ourselves, that organic,

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something organically is happening inside myself, and you

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can't learn it from a book, you got to you got to close the

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eyes, you got to do the mindful walking, if you have to do a

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practice on a regular basis to to create that. That the

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opposite of a monkey mind, you know, again, it's stable. You

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can breathe, the instrument is relaxed. You observe the

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thoughts you don't, you don't you don't, you don't jump into

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the thought you just observe the thought by like, like this

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described like clouds moving through the sky, just as clouds

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moving through the sky, you're just sitting there, having a

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piece of cheese and bread and little wine, watching the clouds

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go by. Rather than judging the clouds, you are just observing

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the clouds. And so I like that mindful walking you talked about

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because that is so easy to do. Another one that car totally

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talked about was when you're gonna start the car. Before you

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put the key in the ignition or press the button, you pause. And

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it disrupts the automaticity of your reality. People live in

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these patterns. They don't know they're in a pattern. And but so

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break the pattern every time you break the pattern you wake up,

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like I brush my teeth with my right hand. Okay, tonight brush

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with your left hand, and you'll wake up, boy, you'll wake up

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because it's different, you know? So I think that's what

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you're talking about. Is that true?

Unknown:

i Yes, absolutely. You know, every time we you know, we

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take ourselves out of a habit of just mindlessly going. We bring

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awareness to that. And then when we can bring awareness to that

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mindlessness. And go more mindfully into what we're doing,

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especially with something we do all the time. You'll see things

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you haven't seen in a very long time. And you'll you can often

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see that maybe there's other choices to make. Yes. And And

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the interesting thing is if you go through Jon Kabat Zinn is one

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of my favorite people for mindfulness. And what's their

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name again, Jon Kabat Zinn and is a great mindfulness fella. He

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teaches it for chronic pain. But he talks about attitudes. And

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when I look at the attitudes like acceptance, trust,

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beginner's mind, non judgment, gratitude, you know, generosity,

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and I know I'm missing one,

Alan Carroll:

probably forgiveness is there somewhere.

Alan Carroll:

That's,

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that is definitely something that's important. But

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that's not one of the ones that he talks about. Letting go,

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there's the other one letting go, which would be on that

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forgiveness page, right. All of those are actually the things

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that are important for manifesting or creating what we

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want in life to

Alan Carroll:

go ahead and repeat those again so people can

Alan Carroll:

hear them again.

Unknown:

Okay, I'll try and I'll try and remember them. So it's

Unknown:

the acceptance trust, beginner's mind, letting go non judgement,

Unknown:

patience, generosity, and gratitude.

Alan Carroll:

Wow, that's pretty good.

Unknown:

Not bad.

Alan Carroll:

That's pretty. I couldn't remember all those

Alan Carroll:

things. That's pretty good. I like that. Yeah, yeah. Well,

Alan Carroll:

those are very valuable golden nuggets that you've given us

Alan Carroll:

today. Leslie, I want to thank you for being on the mindful you

Alan Carroll:

podcast. And I also would like to know how people can connect

Alan Carroll:

with you. They like what they're hearing and they'd like to

Alan Carroll:

follow a little bit more about the rise of the Phoenix way. How

Alan Carroll:

can people connect with you?

Unknown:

Absolutely. Just go to my website, Rise of the

Unknown:

phoenix.org and you can definitely head there and if you

Unknown:

do want to chat with me, I do have a free consultation. ration

Unknown:

and or email me my email will be there as well.

Alan Carroll:

Wonderful. Well thank you very much for being on

Alan Carroll:

the mindful your podcast. And I look forward to seeing it sent

Alan Carroll:

out into the world so people can become more mindful and more

Alan Carroll:

present in order to make healthy choices mentally and physically

Alan Carroll:

and emotionally. So thank you very much Leslie.

Unknown:

Beautiful. Thank you for having me. Bye bye

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Alan Carroll is an Educational Psychologist who specializes in Transpersonal Psychology. He founded Alan Carroll & Associates 30 years ago and before that, he was a Senior Sales Training Consultant for 10 years at Digital Equipment Corporation. He has dedicated his life in search of mindfulness tools that can be used by everyone (young and old) to transform their ability to speak at a professional level, as well as, to reduce the psychological suffering caused by the misidentification with our ego and reconnect to the vast transcendent dimension of consciousness that lies just on the other side of the thoughts we think and in between the words we speak.